Parent starts dating again
While he was looked after at Royal Manchester Children’s Hospital, a fundraising campaign brought in more than £500,000 to help provide a specially adapted house.
Then, inevitably, the girl starts to get upset, frustrated, confused, etc. My point here: My goal is to maintain the stage before exclusivity and relationship happens. I’m clear on this and it’s practical for where I am in my life right now.
While a girl could get me to put in more effort by withdrawing a bit, I am ultimately not looking for a relationship and my effort is only going to go so far. I’ve been successfully manipulated into relationships too.
In the end, they’ve failed because I knew in my mind, heart and gut that it wasn’t what I wanted and as much as I tried to numb myself into wanting the relationship, I couldn’t kid myself.
My point in all of this is that if you withdraw, you will most likely get him to put in more effort, but that will only take you so far.
Ultimately, if you want a relationship to be as you want it to be, you need to be true to what you really want.You need to have a clear idea of what you consider a relationship to be. Some guys need time and there’s nothing wrong with giving a guy time.Attempting to mold a man/relationship into being the relationship you want is a losing battle – progress is an illusion if you want something that he ultimately does not. Give him space to step up and be that man without manipulating, prodding, hinting, guilting or nagging him to be that man. No good relationship was ever built on the grounds of manipulation. But ultimately you won’t get the relationship you want unless you’re willing to pull the plug on a relationship that isn’t what you want.How long are you willing to wait before you cut bait and move on?