Enfp and infp dating
I am an INFJ who only discovered my type a year ago, but I haven’t been able to read enough about personality theory since.
As soon as I was able to use it to explain my weirdness, I wanted the rest of my family to type themselves, including my husband. Based on what I’ve read about the best relationship matches, the commonly recommended mate for an INFJ seems to be either an ENFP or ENTP.
I would certainly not argue against these pairings, especially since I haven’t been romantically involved with either type.
But I do believe the INFJ-INTJ relationship is often overlooked due to fear of too much introversion or an emotional mismatch.
Of course these are generalizations, something personality theory as a whole is subject to.
I’ve also read that the intuitive bond between an INFJ and INTJ is nearly instantaneous, something I can certainly attest to.
I think it was this that got my attention when I met my husband: he was self-assured, intelligent, wonderfully sarcastic, and aloof.
I had never met someone so much like me, but with more confidence.
He wanted to stay home most of the time, so she accused him of being boring.I haven’t had this experience in a relationship per se, but I’ve certainly been called anti-social more than once.I avoid talking on the phone (or, God forbid, Face Time – the horror), shopping anywhere but online, and keeping more than a couple of friends, because all these require far more interaction than I’m interested in having.We’ve been married for 10 years, and he’s still the one encouraging me to get out and do something that includes leaving the house. I get the encouragement I need to socialize, even if from another introvert, and he gets to feel less hermit-y and boring compared to me.
We complement each other well; my abstract thinking jives with his detail-orientation and logistical tendency. But to say he is all implementation and no creative input would be inaccurate as well as an underestimation – he thinks about a project and studies it, then is able to recreate it in a drawing on paper.Then he will build it to look exactly like his drawings and comment calmly that he’s never built one of those before.I’m generally not a fan of details, so this ability continues to impress me.My grand ideas might be earth-shattering, but they may or may not be realistic; I’m not always the best judge.