Dating someone who has genital herpes No cc fuck now
The other day, a friend made a nasty comment about herpes in front of me and then quickly apologized. I told him that I'd seen the Abreva in his medicine cabinet once after I asked to steal some Q-tips, but he hastily got defensive and rambled about how he'd "really gotten only one cold sore in his entire life." What he meant was, "Cold sores don't count as herpes."The last time I had heard that stupid, godforsaken sentence was just after I had been diagnosed with herpes simplex virus 1 — the same strain that causes cold sores on your mouth — on my genitals."I wasn't sure if you'd be offended," he said, kindly thinking of my dirty, herpetic soul."It's no big deal," I said, "I mean, don't you have it too? A guy I was dating at the time went down on me, as you do, with no disclosure of previous cold sores he'd had. This dopey-ass, Soundcloud-having, Vimeo-Plus-subscribing dude had a Valtrex prescription for his frequent cold sores — one he hadn't been using — but didn't think that going down on me could transmit anything.A few days after hooking up with him, I knew something was wrong.It was like the UTI from hell with all these weird other symptoms thrown in. I held an ice pack to my crotch as tears of frustration streamed down my face and onto my twin bed.The backs of my thighs ached, I felt like I had the flu, I couldn't wear tight pants. I desperately Googled my symptoms, hoping I'd discover I had adult chicken pox or something else, else.The next morning, I took a cab to an urgent care facility where a doctor confirmed my worst fears.
There's the awkwardness of telling new partners — because you're not vulnerable enough when you first start dating someone.
But by far one of the most frustrating things is hearing people who get cold sores get defensive about how they're better than those of us with "full-blown herpes." Guys, I have news for you.
If you've ever gotten a cold sore on your mouth, you have herpes.
You don't have Herpes Lite, or the freemium version with in-app purchases and ads, or beginner's herpes — you have regular, full-blown, 100-percent real herpes.
A recent World Health Organization study found that 2 of every 3 people has herpes somewhere on their body.And people who've "only gotten a cold sore once" can pass herpes on to others An individual with HSV who is asymptomatic will not have a cold sore, but an asymptomatic person can transmit herpes.Up to 90 percent of cases don't have recognized genital herpes symptoms, since the percentage of persons with HSV who are asymptomatic ranges between 60–90 percent in studies.Unfortunately, we don't know why some people get symptoms and some people don't.